The fear of abandonment is one of our most primal fears, and deservedly so. Its pain is often overwhelming, and can leave its mark on the rest of your life. In the midst of the hurt, it’s hard to see an end to your feelings of rejection, shame, and betrayal.
In this updated edition of the groundbreaking book, Susan Anderson, a therapist who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than thirty years, shares recent discoveries in neuroscience that help put your pain in perspective. It is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups—whether you are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether you are caught up in patterns that sabotage your own relationships, or you’re in a relationship in which you no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.
Going beyond comforting words to promote real change, this healing process will help you work through the five universal stages of abandonment—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, lifting—by understanding their biochemical and behavioral origins and implications. New hands-on exercises for improving your life will teach you how to manage the inevitable pain, then go on to build a whole new concept of self, increase your capacity for love, and find new love on a deeper and richer level than ever before.
Self
Understand and start to heal your childhood wounds, cultivate more self-awareness, tune into your body wisdom, start to master your emotions and build emotional and mental wellbeing and resilience.
Others
Break free from unhealthy relationship patterns and toxic family dynamics, get past difficult breakups and heal from heartbreak, build healthy boundaries, learn to grow through conflict, cultivate conscious love.
Work
Uncover your values and life purpose, become a more conscious and regenerative leader, build confidence, find your deepest motivations and manage and learn how to manage stress and reduce workplace anxiety.
Parenting
Gain clarity if parenthood is really for you, learn to become a more conscious parent, understand parenting from different angles and learn to safeguard your relationship with your partner on your parenting journey.
Earth
Learn to cope with eco-anxiety, get informed about our environment so you can make the changes needed to better protect and connect with our planet and your mental wellbeing.
Death
Get to grips with the end of life and the emotions that go with it, by understanding what it all means, how other cultures view death and how we can die more wisely, peacefully and consciously.
